So, about a week ago, I made a mistake. I partook in intercourse with my girlfriend, completely unprotected. I did withdraw, but these past few days at the end of the day, she has gotten bad headaches and felt sick. She has informed me that she is aware, and if she is pregnant that she won’t go through with having a child. I support her in her decision, but I just don’t want my parents or her parents to find out. If it is a child I don’t know how I could live with aborting it. I just need some help and advice. I’m feeling really depressed and angry at myself., I just need help.
CONSIDER THIS:
- Thinking about how your actions could affect yourself and a child’s life can make you feel like questioning your beliefs. You are honest and only human for questioning your actions despite your difficult situation.
- It’s only the right thing to do to question whether it’s okay for your girlfriend to have an abortion. There are moral and ethical consequences involved in her and your actions. Next time you have sexual intercourse it may be wise to think about how this could affect a potential child in the future.
- Remember that you’re only a teenager and aren’t mature and responsible enough to understand how serious the situation could be. You can’t control your girlfriend’s actions but you can control yours next time.
- It could benefit your soul to contemplate the situation spiritually. Head to the Teen Central website and click the Learn tab then Spirituality to learn more. You can try prayer, meditation or yoga to gain further spiritual insight.
- Hopefully your parents are supportive and able to help you through this if you tell them. It may be a good idea to weigh the pros and cons of telling them the truth.
- Just because you’re able to have sexual intercourse doesn’t necessarily mean you’re ready for it. If you’re not ready to have a child, you’re not ready to have sex. If you had a baby at this moment you wouldn’t be responsible enough to take care of it because you aren’t an adult yet. You can gain responsibility by taking care of a pet, babysitting or getting a part-time job so you’re better prepared.
- It might benefit you to talk to a trusted counselor or therapist. You might be able to talk to Planned Parenthood about how much this bothers you. Read the privacy rights for your state.
- If you need someone to talk to you can go to the Teen Central website, click the Help tab and call the Crisis Textline. Click the Learn tab then Anger or Depression if you need additional help in these areas.
- You may write or draw in a journal to let your feelings out in a healthy way.
HELP YOURSELF:
- How could it benefit you to educate yourself and be realistic about how a baby could affect your life?
- What is the valuable life lesson you can take away from this ordeal?
- How might speaking to a spiritual leader prove to be a source of support for you right now?
