I believe I am a heteroromantic asexual, and have one question…
Can I be asexual but still want a boyfriend?
THINGS TO DO FIRST:
- Thank you for reaching out to Teen Central. Sexuality is a complex part of who we are that develops along with us as we get older.
- Do you have any trusted people in your life that you can talk to about these questions you’re figuring out?
- If you don’t have someone in your life that you can talk with about these things, you can also reach out to the Gay Lesbian Bisexual Transgender National Help Center. They offer support for LGBT youth, and can be reached at Youth Talkline: 1800-246-PRIDE (7743) or http://www.glbthotline.org/youth-talkline.html.
WHEN YOU’RE READY:
- Check out our LEARN section for information about sexuality and see if that helps with any of the information you’re looking for.
- Whatever you believe you are, or are not, is completely up to you. It sounds like you are looking for some rules about how to define your sexuality around what you want and how you identify. The bottom line is, if you want to have a boyfriend, that’s fine. Maybe you have some tendencies that are similar to what you’ve learned about asexual people, but you don’t have to be one or the other. As you grow and develop, you may find your identity grows and changes with you until you reach a point that you are content.
- Rather than try to fit into a label, think about what makes you happy, and who makes you happy, and go from there. Most importantly, make sure you’re happy with yourself and everything that is wonderful and unique about you.