Friendships and Feelings
I have a friend who has liked this guy since September and never shuts up about him. I have been close friends with this guy for about 3 years, but now I’m starting to realize that I like him. I also think that he liked me. But I have also liked this other guy for about 2 years. I think he likes me too. so how can tell if someone likes me and how can I tell these people I like them? How do I tell the girl that we like the same guy??
Also how can I tell if someone is toxic? Cuz I think I have a friend that is extremely toxic and high mantnance. But I don’t want to shut her off without knowing for a fact. And if she is, how do I get her out of my life without hurting her feelings??
Finally, I’m kinda paranoid when it comes to my friends. Like I’m always asking if I’m a bad friend and they always say no but I still think it. And I keep thinking that muffins are only friends eligible bc they feel bad, even tho they deny it. I feel like in cause a bunch of problems as well. How soon stop thinking these things?
- Sometimes it is really hard to talk about how we feel about others, especially if it is a close friend. We all may struggle sometimes with connecting to our emotions and being able to communicate them. I commend you for reaching out to the Teen Central Community. We are here to support you.
- Take a look at the Tools tab at www.TeenCentral.com, specifically the Relationships pages, to find a bit of information on the difference between healthy and unhealthy relationships. Young people, and adults alike, can have difficulty figuring out what healthy relationships look like. It is always helpful to assess the relationships you currently have to make sure they are bringing you joy and not pain.
- Also under the Tools tab on www.TeenCentral.com, you can find some basics on positive self-talk. Take moments throughout the day to identify your strengths within yourself. How can you celebrate those strengths and also bring them to social situations?
- Self-reflection is always helpful and can help ease your anxiety about being a positive friend to others. Take this opportunity to reflect on the really great qualities you bring to your relationships. If it is helpful to you, make a list of all of these things. At the end, you may be surprised at all of the great characteristics you bring to the table.
- Remember that friendships and social supports should bring you happiness and positivity. When you evaluate these friendships and they are bringing you pain, it may be time to communicate those feelings.
- Think about having an honest conversation with your friend about how they make you feel. Ask yourself, what would be the worst that could happen if I share my thoughts and feelings with that friend? Is there someone in your life (a trusted adult or peer) that could help you initiate that conversation? It might also be helpful to jot down some items that you would like to share with them. Give it a try.