Hi! I am a girl, I’m 11 years old and I’m confused because recently I’ve had crushes on other girls. I’m overwhelmed because I’m at a young age and I’m scared about what my friends will think of me. Some of my friends haven’t been as nice to me and I’m scared their going to think I’m weird because of that. How can I actually tell? Also when am I going to figure myself out? Also when is a good time to tell the people around me? I’ve already told my parents, but what about my siblings, friends, grandparents, aunts, uncles, etc. about all of this?
IT’S OKAY TO BE CONFUSED:
- Thank you for reaching out to TeenCentral! Sexuality can be hard to talk about and explore because it’s a really personal topic. Being confused about different emotions, feelings or attractions is a normal part of self-identity. We hope that you can find the help and support you need here at TeenCentral. You are not alone in this!
- TeenCentral offers a bunch of resources for folks who are going through this journey of sexual identity. You can click here to learn more about sexuality and also help you with you own “coming out” plan. Just remember- your sexuality and identity (whatever it may be) is your story to tell, if and when you are ready to do so. Don’t feel pressured to put a label on who you are. Being you is unique and beautiful.
- Unfortunately, there are no concrete answer to some of your questions. That is because, only you will know when you are ready to talk about your own sexuality. Openly talking about your sexuality is something that may take time. Aside from your parents, is there any other trusted adults that you can talk to about your journey? If there is, ask yourself, how would you feel if they knew about your sexuality?
WHEN YOU ARE READY:
- It is always a good idea to have some coping skills ready to help with those overwhelming feelings. When all of those emotions start to grow, what are some things that can help you stay present? It might be helpful to find a quiet spot in your home or in nature to just be present with your thoughts. Take that time to close your eyes and take some long, deep breaths. Sometimes our body has a way of telling us when our emotions are getting too big.
- Have you ever tried writing a letter to your friends and family about how you are feeling? I know it sounds silly, but it might be a helpful way to get your thoughts in order. Sometimes if we don’t write things down, we forget to communicate them the way we wanted to. This could be a “practice” of what you would say to those important people in your life about how you are feeling.
- Lastly- BE YOU! Be proud of the person you are growing into. It may be scary and overwhelming at times, but you are doing a great job! Reaching out to TeenCentral was just one step on your amazing journey. We are always here to listen.