My mom is taking her problems out on me. I don’t know what happened but one day she seemed like the happiest person on the planet. The next she just started taking her problems out on me. I’ve tried to talk to her about it but she just yelled at me. I ask her if there’s anything I can do for her, and she says “no leave me alone” so I do. But ten minutes later she’s getting mad at me because I’m not asking if there’s anything I can do for her. I don’t know what to do, but it’s making me sick. Literally.
- Thank you for reaching out to the TeenCentral Community! Sounds like you going through a tough time with your Mom and it can be very difficult to reach out for support. It takes a lot of STRENGTH and COURAGE to be vulnerable and share your story. We appreciate you trusting us and it’s important to know you are not alone and we are here to support you.
- Here at TeenCentral we have many resources to help during the hard times you are going through. For starters, you can read the stories of others who are going through similar issues. You can even search for keywords in these stories to narrow down the topics by using the search bar in the top right of the page. It is normal to have some family issues growing up. You’re not alone.
- It’s great that you took the step of trying to talk to your Mom about the issues you’re experiencing. It can be discouraging if it doesn’t always go well but don’t let that stop you trying to communicate. Talking to others is a huge part of coping. Aside from your Mom, are there any other trusted family members or adults you can speak to? Maybe a neighbor, or a teacher? Think about it.
- Sometimes people struggle to communicate verbally. Have you considered maybe trying to talk to your Mom in another way such as writing her a letter? Writing can also be used just to help you cope with what’s going on by getting out your thoughts and feelings in an organized way. You might feel a weight lifted off your shoulders just getting your thoughts and feelings on papers.
- You mentioned that the issues occurring are making you literally sick and unfortunately physical symptoms can be a result of emotional stress. Self-care is extremely important all the time but especially when going through challenges. What are the things that you enjoy doing that will help with your physical and emotional wellness? We also encourage you to check out some of the resources under the “LEARN” and “TOOLS” tabs as there are various things there that can help with your overall wellness.
- In addition to doing things that make you happy and healthy, it’s also important to maintain positive connections with others who make you happy. It can be difficult during the current COVID pandemic but not impossible. Who are the people you enjoy spending time talking to and are there creative ways you can stay in contact with them? Reach out to them.