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My mom hurts me

By April 19, 2021No Comments

Hi my name is {name} and ever since I was 5, my mom would beat me because she had anger problems. Now she does is bc of school. She steals and beat me and my dead sister before she died.

FIRST THINGS FIRST:

  • First of all we want to say how sorry we are that you have to go on living life without your sister, and under the conditions that you have described. We are very sorry for your loss and hope that you are able to cope with her passing.
  • The next time you are in immediate danger, we want you to get to a phone and call 911. Your physical safety is our number one concern. No one should ever make you feel like you do not deserve to be safe. And no one should be physically harming you. There are people that can help you. You just need to reach out in the moment that it’s happening. That being said, some people are very uncomfortable calling police and we can understand that. Another option may be having a friend pick you up and take you to the ER.
  • What you are going through must be really tough. TeenCentral is thankful that you reached out for support. You shouldn’t ever feel alone. Someone is always there for you, you just need to ask for help. If you are suffering from abuse and need support someone is always available 24 hours a day at 1-800-4-A-CHILD, or click here to access their website.
  • Is there anyone in your life that you can talk to about your mom and what is happening to you? Think about the people in your life, a trusted friend, a neighbor, guidance counselor, or a teacher? Even if you are only talking to them virtually right now, it is important that you tell an adult about what is happening to you. Do not feel like you need to suffer in silence. You told TeenCentral what you are going through, that is the first step, keep talking about it. There are people who can help you feel safe.

CONSIDER THIS:

  • We don’t ever want anything bad to happen to you. Communication is the best option. Make sure someone else knows what is going on in your home. If you are struggling to talk to someone about your mom or your sister, try writing a letter. Get out a pen and paper and write down all the things you would want to say to someone about how you are feeling. What emotions are you having when your mom is feeling angry? What is something that you wish your mom knew about you when you feel sad?
  • It must be really hard loosing a sister, and also trying to navigate a really harmful home life. Finding some sense of safety is important. This might also look like taking a moment to breathe and let some of that negativity leave your body. Find a safe, quiet space and take several deep breathes in and out. Repeat that over and over. This will allow you to clear your head and maybe even open your mind to communicate better. Try it!
  • We also want you to know that you are strong! You are worthy of love! Click here! This is the reminder you need of all the positive things in your life. Hang this is your room or put it in your pocket for every time you need a little reminder how great you are doing and what you deserve in your life. We are proud of you for reaching out. Keep it going!
  • And we are leaving a few “forget-me-not” flowers here for your sister. May she rest in peace.