nothing I can do

By July 15, 2021No Comments
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My dad’s become more abusive than ever.

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I’ve realized he’s (father) a domestic abuser (I think it’s called) and he is very manipulative. When I found out he punched her, I started crying because he promised me he wouldn’t touch her again. Last time he threw a chair at her arm. He got mad at me for crying and said it was her fault, he pushed me so hard. I was SO SCARED! I thought he was gonna punch me too. I was crying so much I couldn’t breathe and stop shaking.

We took her to the hospital, and he pretended as if he didn’t do anything. Even after we got back, [Some explicit information removed to protect readers.] (more abusive things happened to mum). He shouted at me for crying because I “was crying for the wrong reason”.

He’s extremely manipulative. For example, he left the house, drove the car for a bit and came back. So I wouldn’t know he was in the house. Then he caught me asking my mum what we are going to do. He got mad at me saying it was my fault we ran away last time he hurt her. That was RIGHT after he promised he was sorry.

Last night I tried to self-harm and it didn’t hurt at all. I’m scared bc the pain is the only thing that stops me from thinking about all this stuff. It didn’t even bleed. The blood and pain are the things I need. There’s nothing else I have.

My dad stole my siblings and my passports, so we can’t leave the country. Over here they don’t care about domestic abuse. They actually applaud it over here. There’s no way we can leave, because my dad took all my mums money.

Today, as always they acted as if nothing happened. As if they were so in love again. As if I didn’t SOB because he was playing gospel music at night, as if he was doing something “god” would be HAPPY ABOUT! How am I supposed to worship a god he does? He’s an abuser. And doesn’t believe it. And my mum only believes it the day he hits her. Then she goes back to loving him.

I’m trapped. There’s nowhere for 13 year old me to go. No one cares. I’m sorry that it doesn’t sound so bad. PLEASE read what I posted before, (if it is someone else reading this) so you can properly understand. I physically feel disgusting. I can only eat one meal a day, maybe water or chocolate. My hands and stomach ache all day. And when I think about it too much, I cry so much I cant breath. Then I’m convinced I’m faking a panic attack so my mum will listen. I don’t tell anyone though. I have a headache all day. I feel miserable. My dad still wants me to work for him and my mum. When all I want to do is die. I’ve been meaning to get rid of the pills on my dresser so i wouldn’t attempt again. But I want to so badly. There’s a strong chance I’m going to.

Before I thought maybe I were overreacting. But I’m literally trapped in a foreign country that hated me for being gay (I think its punishable by prison or death) and thinks domestic abuse is okay. [Some explicit information removed to protect readers.] (Writer describes that abuse in her current country is permitted, even encouraged. She gives specific examples.)

I’m probably going to try and commit again. I’m scared, so I most likely won’t take enough to die. The self-harm isn’t working so I have nothing I can do. Please don’t give me and numbers to call or helplines. I can’t call them and there’s no therapy online I can take without my parents knowing. Do you know why I don’t feel the pain anymore? PLEASE upload this soon. I only get access to the internet in the evening, and it’s not strong. I’m really scared. I really think dying is the only option I have.

[Added later]

Im so sorry! i forgot to say one thing: please include it in what i just said.

My dog ate some Chocolate and I got mad. I got SO MAD. Madder than ever before. I took it out on her and hit her. I literally hit her and I feel so bad. I feel terrible. I’m scared because I’m acting like my dad. I’m a horrible person. All the more reason I want to die. Thank you for reading and listening to me. It means so much to me. Without this website, 11 year old me would probably not be here today. I’ve been using your site for 2 or 3 years now. And I’m so glad.

You SAVED MY LIFE. many times. thank you


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