Self-Harm, Self-Neglect, What’s Next?

Self-Harm, Self-Neglect, What’s Next?

I am struggling with self-harm. I have been starting to self-neglect recently and feel like I just need to end it, but at the same time know that I need to keep going. How can I cope without self-harming? Also, how do I get out of self-neglect? I have also struggled with self-hatred. What ‘step by step process’ can help me to slowly start actually caring about myself?


  • Reaching out is such an important first step and this should be celebrated!
  • If you are feeling suicidal, please consider looking into the resources on Teen Central. Numbers to call or text are listed to help you. These numbers are available to you 24 hours a day to talk when you need it.
  • Struggling with depression, self-harm and self-neglect is nothing to be ashamed of. You are strong to realize you want to look into help. That’s putting yourself first.


  • Find activities that allow your mind to be distracted and creative; art, music, movies, reading, cooking. Allowing your mind to be in a happy mode even for just a little bit can boost your overall sense of being.
  • Journaling your feelings, thoughts and actions is a wonderful option for self-reflection
  • If you feel comfortable doing so, look into therapy or support groups. You are not alone in this and should not feel like you have to go through this without any support.
  • Do you have any family members or close friends that you can confide in, and how would you approach this with them? It is important to stay connected to people every day, especially during the times you do not feel like staying connected.  Something as simple as sitting in the same room as others watching television can be helpful.  When you feel comfortable talk to them honestly about how you are feeling.  Tell them you need them to listen to you and be there for you.  This is a great first step.
  • If you feel like self-harming or self-neglecting; take a five minute walk or journaling session to sort through positive actions to do instead.