Should I Give Up?

By May 1, 2021No Comments

I’ve only been studying music for 3 years and my family, and everyone else around me wants me to give up. But I have this urge that won’t allow me to move on, even though the fierceness and the spark I had for music and being able to produce, write, and compose it, is dwindling away. I feel like there is nobody on my side anywhere, willing to fight for us until we make it.

I wish I can go back in time to the moments I used to live on campus before Covid-19; when I would dance my way to all my classes because the excitement for producing my own music and other artists music was soooooo great that I couldn’t contain it. It was like I knew that I was going to be a music producer/songwriter/composer someday but I wasn’t sure how it was going to happen; an electric wave would always go through my bones whenever I would think about working in the studio and recording songs that other artists write or that someday I write, and to see every single that my team and I have been working on for months, skyrocket on the EDM charts.

Now I feel like I’m keeping everyone back. I don’t want to be on this earth if I can’t do music, and from weeks of watching Swedenborg & life, a YouTube channel that basically explains life after death, I know that I would rather be in the spirit realm, where I could be happy doing what I love; where there is no condemnation, competition, and shame; where there are no voices or people telling me what I can or can’t do. There, I can be infinite and live the life I’ve always wanted to live. I can get out of this unattractive carcass that’s weighing me down and be forever light and free of pain from the flesh. But, unfortunately, like most people on this earth, I’m still afraid of dying, and that fear is keeping me from ending my life, which is what I really wish I could do.

I’m over trying to look forward to the beauty in life like getting married, having a family, buying our first house; because all of these chapters in life are a billion times better (there are noooo words to explain how massively infinitesimal these chapters would be) in the spirit realm, that’s if I leave this earth before judgment day. All you had to understand from that was that I have decided that I would rather have my first marriage, maybe have children, and to create our own kingdom (because everything is a trillion times richer) in the spirit realm. The most exciting thing about going to the spirit realm would be not having to give up what I fought sooooo hard on earth to achieve, my dream of becoming a music producer/songwriter/composer.

So technically am I giving up on my dream?


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  • We love that you love music. Music can be an amazing way to express and cope with emotions, thoughts and experiences. Even typically less lyrical EDM music can be super emotional in its beats and rhythms and have huge impacts on mood – just like you dancing on the way to classes. You can use that to your advantage. Have you tried channeling any of what you are going through into music? Here you have the opportunity to write (if you wish), create the track, and produce the finished song of your life and your truth. That matters and can be super powerful in helping you heal and be able to move forward toward your dreams. Once you are done, you can let others hear it or just keep it to yourself if you wish – the important part is you get to decide.
  • Keep Dancing! Do the positive things that make you feel good. If you can’t dance, what are the other things that you enjoy? Do you play any other types of music outside of EDM or play any instruments? If not you could always consider learning. There are YouTube channels everywhere that can help you expand your musical talents. Aside from music, are there other positive things you like doing? Maybe there are even ways you can help make things around you feel a bit more spiritual here for yourself and your happiness. Doesn’t have to be anything major, it could be small stuff like going outside, reading, drawing, going for walks, exercising, cleaning, yoga, lighting candles, etc.
  • Just looking at this picture and seeing how much amazing fun these people are having – please don’t give up – we need people like you and your friends making music like this so that when we can gather again people can dance to your music!