Hey, Teencentral! I’m the one who asked about how to increase sexual charm a few days ago. I’m really happy to get your replies! I’m a late bloomer so, I didn’t figure out my sexual orientation as early as some other LGBT teens did. Even though people around me always said I was good-looking, I wasn’t in good health and didn’t exercise much. So I never got into the habit of going to the gym. My body’s not sexy at all. I’m really skinny. I grew up in a really conservative environment and didn’t know my sexual orientation clearly. So I never cared about this stuff and never thought about making myself sexier or more eye-catching. Nope, not at all. I didn’t have any relationship or sexual experiences either. But in the past few years, I’ve gradually realized my sexual orientation. Maybe I’m bisexual. I’m not into chasing after stars, but sometimes I do envy and admire some LGBT stars and actors. I envy their charm that attracts both guys and girls and the sexiness they show in every move. I really wish I could be more attractive. And I’m kind of confused. ‘Cause as a bisexual, I don’t know what my appearance and body should be like to attract both men and women. Do I have to make myself chubby and curvy to attract straight guys? What should I do if I want women to like me? Should I go to the gym and build up muscles to be like a tomboy? So, I don’t know. I’m really confused. I don’t know if I should make my appearance and body more feminine, more neutral, or something else through working out, cosmetic treatments, or even plastic surgery to be more sexually charming?
CONSIDER THIS
- Thank you for asking your questions and contributing to TeenCentral. We are glad that our previous responses have helped in such a way that encouraged you to return:)
- There’s a sentence in your story that stood out, and that is the sentence about not being in good health when you were younger. Health should be your focus as you navigate these big questions and concerns for your life – both physical and emotional health. Rather than choosing a path that will lead you to manipulating your body in unhealthy ways for the sake of others’ pleasure, walk towards routines and practices that give your body and mind what it needs to be strong and healthy. Keep those concepts in mind and we’ll share more specifics in the section below.
- A few questions for you to think about: Who is the real you inside? (That is who you should project on the outside!) How far are you really willing to go to change yourself? Do you think it’s important to stay healthy emotionally as you are working through all of this? Do you value your health as much as your outward appearance and your ability to physically attract others?
- A tip: Being emotionally healthy is important for any relationship. If you are physically attractive but mentally unstable because of what you have put your body and mind through to get that appearance, it could really cause problems in any relationship you have.
STAYING EMOTIONALLY AND PHYSICALLY HEALTHY
- This Decision Tool could be really helpful for you on your journey. It organizes thoughts and ideas about big decisions that you are considering for your life.
- The Sun Salutation is a yoga progression that helps with physical balance and regulated breathing. It’s harder than it looks and helps a person strengthen their core muscles. It simultaneously helps with stress relief.
- This Walk-to-Run tool helps you build up slowly to be able to run athletically. Since you haven’t really done this before it’s a good way to start.
- We asked you some questions above. It may be a good idea to start a journal (either in a notebook or online) writing down your thoughts and feelings daily. You could answer thought questions like the ones given above or just ideas you have in your mind. Read THIS BLOG about how to start a practice of journaling.
What’s inside of you is more important than your physical appearance. We are sure you have heard that many times before – but it is TRUTH. Knowing yourself, having confidence, sticking to your values – all of things will make you more attractive to the right person for you.
