Lately I have been feeling like I am alone, and no one cares about my thoughts or feelings. I don’t really know where these feelings are coming from and it is starting to scare me.
CONSIDER THIS:
- Sometimes, we feel isolated. It doesn’t feel like anyone is relating to us or that anyone is even trying to relate to us. Know that however you think people feel about you that you deserve to be listened to and to be loved.
- Sometimes, negative emotions come out of nowhere, Logically, you may know the feelings don’t make sense but your body and hormones/neurotransmitters make you feel sad anyway, whether you have a reason to be sad or not. You may be experiencing this seemingly random wave of negative emotion because you are growing, and with hormone changes comes changes in mood, or you may be going through a wave of depression. In either case, it is a good idea to reach out to family to get you through this slump. With time and support, these negative feelings may fade on their own.
- Reaching out to family or friends will help them understand what you’re going through so that they can help you. It will also allow you to strengthen your bonds with them, which may relieve your loneliness. While you feel like no one is extending you the love and care you want, sometimes the best thing you can do is reach out to ask for the love you want. People don’t always know what you’re going through, so while you feel like no one cares, others may think they’re showing you plenty of love. There are likely people around you that care, you just need to ask them to show it more rather than wait expectantly for them to prove it to you. You can get a lot more out of life if you take the courage to ask for what you want rather than waiting for it to fall upon you.
- If you feel like no one around you is an adequate source of love, perhaps you should try to befriend more people that can help support you. If you try to join activities, such as a sport or club, you may make new friends you feel listen to you better and care about you. Socializing, whether it results in deep friendships or not, may help lighten your mood in general because you’re engaging yourself with and connecting to others. Plus, if you join a club or sport, you will not only be meeting people but investing your time into something you have fun with. It’s key to note that physical activity is great for de-stressing and can help relieve your anxiety.
HELP YOURSELF:
- What do you want? (Think love, friends, etc.)
- How can you help yourself get what you want?
- What is preventing you from having what you want?
- What are some ways you can make friends?
