I slapped a girl at my school because she pushed me. And now I’m in trouble for it.
CONSIDER THIS:
- Being wrongly accused can make you feel discouraged and unjustified. You are strong for defending yourself even though you were the one who was provoked in the first place.
- No one has any right to touch you in any way if you don’t want them to. If you provoked this girl to push you, you may be to blame for slapping her. But if she pushed you for no good reason at all, you are definitely not to blame for feeling like you want to hit her back. Hitting others is never really okay, but sometimes people provoke you to the breaking point.
- You can try asking one of your parents, or both, to go to the school and speak to the teacher, principal or whoever blamed you. Your mom or dad may be able to convince this person that you aren’t a bad person. This might help you calm down from being wronged.
- If no one believes that you weren’t to blame, you could try being more spiritual. Everything happens for a reason. You can try to understand the problem you faced and learn from it. You can head to the Teen Central website and click the Learn tab then Spirituality to learn more. Spiritual techniques include prayer, yoga and meditation. You can attend church if you’d like to become more involved.
- Be positive. Even if you don’t deserve to suffer, you can find something in the situation to make you a stronger, better person. Be the bigger person. You can turn this into an opportunity to get justice for others by volunteering. Volunteer opportunities include helping the environment, children or animals. You can even adopt a pet from a pet shelter if you’d like.
- You can try to understand the feelings of the girl who pushed you, even if she deserved it.
- You can find ways to avoid these types of situations with girls by not letting yourself stoop to their low level. If you become less petty and get more self-control, you can avoid them more often.
- If you completely mind your own business and focus on living your best life, you can leave these types of girls in the past. She might still try to provoke you, but be patient and realize she’s human, even if you can’t stand her.
- The way this girl treated you was wrong. Instead of letting the situation with her bring you down, continue to persevere. No one should be trying to convince you that you’re wrong when you’re right to be angry.
- To maintain a positive mindset, you can repeat positive affirmations to yourself.
- Expressing one’s feelings in hard times is important so your emotions don’t spiral out of control. Some positive ways to vent your feelings are learning to play a musical instrument, painting, drawing or other creative activities. Write in a daily journal to jot down your thoughts.
- To calm anger or other feelings, you can focus on something else. You might want to read a book, watch cartoons or a humorous movie. You can join a sport or learn a new hobby, like sculpture or origami.
- You can head to the Teen Central website and click the Learn tab then Bullying to learn more. Knowledge is power. Click the Help tab and call one of the hotlines if you need someone to talk to. The other tabs have resources which may be helpful to your situation.
HELP YOURSELF:
- How can you commit to being a better person?
- What would make a girl like this pay so much attention to you? In what ways can you use this information in a positive way to avoid petty girls?
- In what ways can you focus on living your own life in a positive way so you don’t become involved with this type of girl?
- How could this type of girl ruin your life if you keep getting involved in fights with her? How can you make sure you have a bright, successful and happy future?
