I have had depression for about 4 years. All my mom does is make me feel like I don’t need to be in this world. She hits me, tells me i will never make it past 13, {i’m 12}, lets people pick on me and sometimes tries to stab me. I just want to know what to do. Some way some how i have to get out of this. HELP.
FIND SOME HELP:
- We’re so sorry that you are struggling with your mom and feeling so mistreated. No one has the right to hurt someone else, and there are many laws in many places that protect children from physical, emotional and sexual abuse as well as neglect. Thank you for sharing your story with us.
- It’s important to have a plan to keep yourself emotionally and physically safe, not only when you feel your mother become overwhelming, but also if you are being hit or threatened. We know it’s hard to consider, but we strongly recommend you tell someone. This could mean talking to a trusted adult in a role of authority. If you are comfortable calling the police or the county child protective services that may help you. You can also call non-emergency 911, and ask them to help connect you to the child abuse hotline in your area, or to crisis services for your county. They would also be able to help. You could also talk to a teacher or guidance counsellor at school.
- Identify a safe place in your house that you can get to when you feel you are in danger. If someplace in your house won’t work, plan with a neighbor, trusted friend, other family members that when things are unsafe you can g0 there.
- You mentioned your depression, if you feel that you might hurt yourself – STOP! YOU ARE NOT ALONE! There is help and hope out there, and just like you found us, you can easily find the help you need. One of the things we want you to do when you feel like hurting yourself is call 1-800-273-8255 or text HELLO to 741741. You will be connected with someone right away that is ready to listen and trained to help you.
- Do you have any safe adults in your life, such as other family members, coaches, religious leaders, or counsellors? Could you talk with them about what is happening with your mom? Is anyone aware that there is such difficulty at home? Think of someone that you could tell what is going on between you and your mom. Even if that person doesn’t feel they can help you, having someone just listen can offer some temporary relief from the overwhelming stress of the situation.
WHEN YOU ARE UP FOR IT:
- It sounds as if you are being flooded with some really negative interactions at this moment. Coping with the things you are going through means that you need to take care of yourself even more. Try to do something every day to help you remember the good things about you and not let the pressure build up inside. This may mean doing something like meditation, yoga, deep breathing, taking a walk, calling a friend, playing with a pet, listening to your favorite music, etc., etc. It’s ok for this to be a commitment, like an appointment, for you to take care of you.
- Would you consider talking with a therapist or counselor? People that are exposed to this kind of repeated negativity and hurt find having someone to talk through it with can really help. You can ask your guidance counselor to help you find someone, or if you’re good with the computer you can google – therapy in my area. Or google your county mental health office to find resources.
- If you need some help figuring out how to help yourself, or take care of yourself, spend some time looking at the LEARN and TOOLS sections of Teen Central. In TOOLS, you’ll find lots of resources for yoga, meditation and building a support plan. In TOOLS, you can read about depression, preventing suicide, self-injury and wellness. Please take advantage of the resources we offer and take care.
