Me and my mom fight a lot we have some good days, but the others are terrible, we got into a fist fight before she called the cops on me sent me to the hospital threatening to leave me there and then she threatened me with calling my probation officer saying, “my life is in your hands so be wise.” I don’t know what to do, I’m slowly giving up because of the fact this household is mentally abusive, I can’t take the fighting the cops, the making fun of me when I cry or when I’m upset, I feel useless to her, she makes me watch my sister almost all the time when my sister is in daycare.
FOR RIGHT NOW:
- We are sorry to hear that you are having such a rough time right now. It sounds like you have a lot on your plate but talking about it and seeking help is the first step.
- One of our primary functions is to link teens with helplines and support so check out these three resources: Teen Line provides support for teens through an app available on iPhone known as Teen Talk. Between 6 p.m. and 10 p.m. PT, teens can use the app to speak with another teen who can help with issues such as anxiety, depression, family issues, and more. Teens can also call, text, email, or use the organization’s message board. Or like Teen Line, YouthLine provides teens with teen counselors, who are reachable via phone, a chat service, email, and text. Teens are available from 4 p.m. to 10 p.m. PT (adults are available by phone at all other times). And lastly, teenagers experiencing depression, anxiety, relationship trouble, bullying, and more can text Need2Text at any time and speak with a trained, masters-level counselor.
WHEN YOU ARE UP FOR IT:
- Talking to parents and adults about some things can be tough but having open lines of communication and supportive adults in your life builds up your ability to bounce back from hard times. Here is a useful and reputable website that offers some advice for talking to adults: Talking to Your Parents or Other Adults (for Teens) – Nemours KidsHealth . In addition to these ideas, consider writing down what you would like to say. Pick the most important, for if you try to address too many things at once, it can become overwhelming and sometimes people get defensive. Also, try to avoid the blame and shame game, speak without pointing fingers and please be willing to also accept constructive feedback as well as take responsibility for any part you might play in the equation.
- Consider helping around the house without being asked. It sounds as if you already watch your sister, which is a great help in any household. Perhaps your mother is overwhelmed and needs more help around the house. Asking wont hurt and it keeps the lines of communication open.
