she’s 4 and when she plays with me, she uses her feet, she grabs my hand and makes me touch her feet. I don’t know where she learned that was okay to play with her siblings like that, but it is so weird. I don’t wanna tell my parents bc they are actually nparents (Narcissitic parents) what do I do?
Help Yourself:
- Thank you for sharing your story with us at TeenCentral. It certainly sounds like you have been put in an uncomfortable position. Your sister is young and so what she is doing may not be an obsession, but may be more like experimental behavior. Either way if it is something that makes you feel uncomfortable, it should be corrected. It is okay to say “please stop” or “I do not want to touch your feet” and remove your hands from her feet.
- If you ever feel like you need to talk with someone there are resources available 24/7. You can talk to someone by texting “HELLO” to 741741 or by going to www.crisistextline.org.
- If you don’t feel comfortable talking to your parents, is there another adult you trust to talk to? Maybe a relative, teacher, or guidance counselor? Talking to someone about how you feel, what steps you can take that could be helpful, and how it is going.
Consider This:
- What activities could you do with your sister that maintain healthy boundaries and maintain your relationship? Try activities that maintain space so she can’t touch you with her feet. Maybe activities that keep her moving and on her feet. Remember should she resort back to these behaviors, kindly ask her to stop and move away.
