there’s something seriously wrong with me. today i drove to a park just to cry, alone. i cant cry in my house because there’s no privacy. im in love with my best friend and she doesnt know but i know she doesnt love me back, she told someone she doesnt. i learned that a couple months ago and it’s all i obsess over. it really hurts, like she was the only one i stayed alive for and now i know she doesnt love me back. im truly pathetic and im ready to end it
HELP YOURSELF:
- Thank you so much for reaching out to Teen Central. We’re so grateful that you reached out to tell your story in the midst of such a painful experience. That takes a lot of strength!
- There are few things more emotionally painful than loving someone that doesn’t feel the same way. You are not alone in this! Since this is really taking control of your thoughts, it sounds like you could you a couple lifelines if you’re awake at night, or just not sure where to turn. When that pain you’re feeling gets too overwhelming, take a moment and take care of yourself. Please reach out to someone – you can call 1-800-273-8255 or text HELLO to 741741. Someone is ALWAYS ready to listen and WE WANT YOU TO BE HERE!
- Do you have anyone that you trust in your life that you can talk to about this? Usually, your best friend would be one person we’d suggest – we’ll get there in a minute – but consider if there’s anyone else you can talk to – just to get some of these feelings out – kind of like you did with us. Since we aren’t there with you, it can really help to have someone that listens, cares and really hears you!
WHEN YOU’RE READY:
- Your best friend sounds like she’s an amazing person – and you wouldn’t be best friends if she didn’t think you were amazing too! When we admire and care about someone so much, it’s easy for friendship to grow into romantic feelings. Unfortunately, those things don’t always happen at the same time. What’s pathetic about caring so deeply for someone? We think there’s absolutely nothing wrong with that! Being able to open your heart to another person, and care so much for them, is a wonderful quality. One that we hope you are able to offer to some other special people that you meet throughout your life.
- Feeling like you are only living for one person, or struggling to find things to live for, can be a sign of depression. Please take some time to read about Depression in our LEARN section and see if this is something that you could use some help dealing with. Sometimes Depression can mess with our thoughts, and make our lives seem so much worse than they are. It’s ok not to be ok, and we’re here to tell you that you can get help for depression and feel better.
- Take some time and remember things that you enjoy in your life. We know right now it’s hard to think of anything else but your best friend, and how much you love her, but we think there are probably other things that you enjoyed in your life that you may have forgotten about. When a relationship ends, or doesn’t go the way we want, one of the ways to start healing is to go back to things that we enjoy. Remember what you are good at? What you like to do with your free time? Do you like being active, creative? Practice taking some time, even just 10 minutes a day, and do one of those activities. If you are looking for some new ideas, check out some of the resources on the LEARN and TOOLS sections about Wellness, Yoga and other activities that may help you find some peace.
