I’m a 15-year-old female, and I’m having some trouble with a couple things. So about this time last year, I started falling for a girl before I even knew what was happening. That March we ended up coming out to each other under kind of stressed circumstances, but it only strengthened our relationship at the time. I realized what was happening a month or so later and it hit me like a ton of bricks. I finally managed to tell her how I felt, and it turned out to be mutual (scariest but best feeling). We were always at each other’s houses over the summer, and she made me feel like no one ever has before. It felt like home, and I was just ..happy. She struggled with anxiety as well and we were always there for each other. However, this school year she’s been getting a little distant. We go to a very small school ( literally six people in my grade). We still kind of talk, but everything’s just flipped me over. Only one other person knows I’m gay. Plus I live in a generally very homophobic area. Some days everything seems back the way it was, and it makes me think things will go back. But it’s just hard. It’s hard having to deal with the heartbreak alone like this, not being able to tell anyone anything. I’ve tried reasoning with myself, but I just love her. Of course she has her flaws, but the best people aren’t perfect. I didn’t know something like this could literally hurt as much as it does.
CONSIDER THIS:
- Having your heart broken by someone can make you feel upset and vulnerable. You are genuine and strong for enduring your situation alone despite feeling heartbroken.
- You can try to find a trusted adult like a counselor to speak to. It’s best to make sure this problem doesn’t cause you further stress or anxiety.
- It may be better to talk to people who regularly deal with gay/lesbian issues. On the Teen Central website, you may click on the Help tab and call the Gay Lesbian Bisexual Transgender National Help Center. By clicking the Learn tab then Sexuality and LGBTQ you can learn more about this subject.
- It might be a good idea to find friends who think like you so you fit in better. You can fight for a cause while finding like-minded people by volunteering. Some LGBTQ organizations include The Trevor Project, LGBT Rights Organization and the Human Rights Campaign. There are even online volunteer opportunities.
- You can focus on something else like art, listening to music or take a fun class.
- Finding something to make you laugh could cure your sadness. Watch a comedy, read a funny book or even the comics.
- Writing or drawing in a journal about your feelings may help you let them out in a healthy way.
- Even though you’re hurting right now, time heals all wounds. Maybe she’s just not the right person for you. The good news is that there is someone out there who will love you as much as you love them. Try to see a positive side of your experience.
- Continue to be yourself and you’ll naturally attract the right people to you.
HELP YOURSELF:
- What is a life lesson you can take away from having your heart broken by a girl?
- What other positive ways can you spend your time so you have something else to focus on?
- What are some traits you’d like the best person for you to have?
