When I was 10 me and my friend were touched by another girl in our class. That has made me so uncomfortable in many situations. Now I am 13 and two months ago I had to get a surgery. I was scared that the surgeons would SA me while I was under anesthesia and I had two surgeries after that and still had the same fear. I don’t know how to get over it and I want help.
HELPING YOURSELF
- Safety is one of the most basic needs people have, and it sounds like you had someone violate that for you. That is not ok, and reaching out for help is the first step in taking back control of that feeling for yourself. You should be very proud of yourself for that!
- You may want to consider talking to a trained professional, such as a counselor, therapist, pastor that has been trained to help you through this type of situation. They may be able to help you make the changes necessary for you be able to exist without the same fear you have now.
- Have you discussed this with any family members or another trusted adult? They may be able to help you find an expert to talk to as well as support you outside of those discussions when you need it.
IN THE MEAN TIME
- While you’re looking for the right supports for yourself, you may want to try starting a journal for yourself. Keeping track of your feelings will help you take a look at identifying situations and people that make you feel uncomfortable, and it will provide you with insight when you’re talking to a professional. It also gives you somewhere safe to let your feelings out when your support system may not be around at that time.
- Have you ever tried any type of relaxation/ meditation exercise? These might be helpful before you go into any situations that may typically cause you discomfort. Calming your anxiety and calming your thought process may help you prepare for things like procedures, etc. that would normally make you nervous.
- Keep reminding yourself how important you are and keep moving forward toward feeling healthy. You are amazing and you deserve it!
