when i was little i grew up watching my dad abuse my mom and he would not feed us and when we went to live his family me and my sister was raped by our uncle he was 17 and we was 6 years old and when we told my dad he called us lairs and so we told my mom we when to court and i have mental health issues and i stop taking my pills for it and now my mom hate me now . i stared running away and cutting myself.
THINGS TO CONSIDER:
- Thank you for having the strength and courage to share such a tough experience with us. It sounds like that was really hard for you. The TeenCentral Community is here to support you and help guide you to resources that you can use to get through this. And we know you can overcome this!
- It can be easy to feel alone and like there’s no help when experiencing situations like yours. But you are not alone! There are a bunch of stories here on our site from others who have gone through similar things. We encourage you to check them out. Also – please check out the section on self-injury under the “LEARN” tab. It’s important to understand where these desires to self-harm are coming from and how to cope with those feelings in safer ways.
- You can also check out our blog ” Getting Help for Abuse on Your Own“. I have hyper linked it here. There are some great resources in there about how you might be feeling, and where you can get some help fast.
- In addition to checking out some of the helpful resources under the “LEARN” and “TOOLS” tabs, we feel it’s even more important to find someone in your own life that you feel comfortable talking to about this. Are there any trusted positive adults you can open up to about how you are feeling? You mentioned that there was a history of abuse, but it is still important to let people know what happened. It can take a long time to process the abuse that you have gone through. Talking to a professional could really help with this.
WHERE TO GO FROM HERE:
- When people go through tough situations, it can be easy for those situations to have a negative effect on other parts of their life. The best we can do is try to understand those effects and overcome them. The mental health challenges and issues with medications can be worked on through talking to people like counselors or doctors. This can be tough but it’s worth it in the end.
- It’s important that in addition to talking about your experiences, you also find some safe and healthy coping skills to help get you through the tough moments. Running away and self-harm are unfortunately common reactions to experiences like yours. But these behaviors only temporarily make you feel better and never really fix the issues causing these feelings. These behaviors can also make you feel guilt and shame which isn’t the goal. Instead, do you have any positive coping skills you could try using? It could be anything such as writing, exercising, cooking, or just being outside. It can even be small things like listening to a favorite song or smelling a favorite candle. Maybe you can even write your mom a letter explaining why you are struggling.
- We also think it’s a good idea to surround yourself with people and things that make you happy. Who are the people you enjoy being around and what are your favorite things to do? You should try to do something that makes you happy at least 10 minutes a day, every day. You got this!