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IDK what to do, please help.

By July 15, 2022No Comments

I struggle with depression and strong anxiety. Yesterday I was hanging out with my boyfriend at his house, in his room. this got a little heated and we practically had sex which i repeatedly told him i wasn’t ready for. after i started crying, he comforted me. today (the day after) my boyfriend barely texted me and i was really overthinking, i stayed up the previous night thinking about it. When we finally started texting he was texted weird and we just had an argument. He said he was having a good day and implied i ruined it and was stretching the situation. ive been crying for the last hour. idk what to do, please help.


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