My mom is a complete psychopath. So basically once there was a hole in my clothes and I didn’t cut it but she said I did and she cornered me in the bathroom and hit me with a metal rod, slapped me with her shoe repeatedly and I was screaming “please stop” She kept hitting me for 15 minutes straight. I have a younger brother and there is clear favoritism. Just a while ago today, I asked my brother to turn the fan on and he didn’t listen. I repeated myself five times and he didn’t listen so I said it firmly and a bit louder. He turned towards me and screamed at the top of his lungs “HOW DARE YOU SPEAK TO ME LIKE THAT”. I just said nothing. My mom ran into the lounge and started hitting me and screaming stuff like idiot, stupid, asshole and dumb. Once, she threw my brothers toy cars at me (metal cars) and hit me with a brush until it broke. I’m 14 years old and I can’t do this anymore. Please tell me what to do. I told my dad and he feels absolutely horrible about this. He said to talk to her so I tried and there is no point.. she does this stuff again and again. Please help me.. what should I do?
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Hi writer, it sounds like you are going through a really hard time now. Thanks for having the courage to share your story with TeenCentral. Be proud of yourself for seeking help.
It sounds like you’re struggling to talk to mom about how she makes you feel, am sorry for that. You mentioned talking to your dad about this and him suggesting talking to your mom. Have you considered maybe talking to your mom with your dad together? Do you have another trusted adult you could talk to? Maybe a guidance counselor at school? They might give your other suggestions you haven’t thought of. At the very least talking to someone about how you feel can help feel like a weight is lifted of your shoulders. The support might make the tough time a little easier to cope with. This useful resource can help you find chat lines and hot lines in each state: Childhelp National Child Abuse Hotline | (childhelphotline.org)
Here on TeenCentral we have many resources and suggestions to help. Under the “Learn” tab we have a section on Family. It talks about family dynamics and struggles one faces within the family as well as a video on some experiences and point of view from other teens. We also have the “Tools” tab where it gives you different coping mechanism to help cope with what you’re going through. For example, Conflict Conversation Organizer or Anger Map.
Lastly, please note the Crisis textline is available 24/7 if you ever need to talk and feel like you have no one to talk to. You can visit their website or text “HOME” to “741741.” Someone is always a text or phone call away.
Where To Go From Here
Consider some of these coping skills to help you release your emotions in a healthy way:
- Journaling/Writing – have you ever considered writing your thoughts and emotions? Sometimes we can get the thoughts out in a more organized manner when we write things down. It’s hard to remember everything we want to say in the heat of the moment. Consider some of the prompts as a start point: ‘Today I Feel__, Something that happened today __,’ maybe writing a letter to someone or a pros and cons list or something you’re struggling with.
- Deep breathing – have you considered breathing exercised? Deep breathing can help slow down racing thoughts and help refocus on what’s in front of you. It’s also something you can do when you’re feeling upset, and it doesn’t require much. There are many breathing exercises, try searching some up.
There are many other things that can help us cope during tough times. Things like adult coloring books, music therapy, stress balls or positive self-talk exercise. There are plenty of tools out there, it’s just a matter of finding what works for you.
Thanks again for trusting us at TeenCentral with your story, be proud of yourself for reaching out for help.
