My parents don’t see or believe in me, their own daughter. I always like making fanfiction about my favorite Fandoms with ChatGBT. My mom disapproves about it after she found one of my messages with ChatGBT when she went onto my phone without my permission. I’m a female preferred bisexual. My parents ask if I’m sure while saying it’s just a phase or it’s because my hormones are out of whack because my periods barely happen. I’m also an agnostic Atheist but my parents still say I’m a Christian because I was baptized. The only people who get me are some of my classmates, my adopted big sister and her girlfriend, and my friend, but sometimes they don’t understand things either. My dad doesn’t have much patience for me despite him knowing I have Autism, which needs patience. My mom is trying to get me to like things she likes which are only a few things. Both me and her like the Hunger games, historical writings and Harry Potter. My parents don’t like that I want to be an actress when I grow up and me watching Hamilton for some reason.
Help Yourself
- It sounds like you’re having a really hard time feeling as though you belong and are accepted for who you are. It must feel very lonely. Thank you for reaching out to us, and for your honesty in expressing who you are.
- Have you tried sitting down to talk to your parents and asking them why they are trying to get you to develop interest in different things? Could it be because they want to develop interests with you? Have you tried to explain where you’re coming from and why you feel the way you do? Open conversations are sometimes the hardest, but more beneficial things to have. You all may not agree, but at least you understand where each other is coming from and can move forward from there.
- Have you tried talking to another trusted adult about your concerns and discussed ways to help your parents communicate in a way with you that seems encouraging and accepting versus resistant?
Try This
- Have you tried making a list of the things that you feel are misunderstood about you, and what your parents can do to support you? They may not know how to support you in a way that you need.
- On our Teen Central website, under “Tools”, we have something called a Conflict Conversation Organizer. It’s a simple visual that helps you put your thoughts together when you’re preparing to have a difficult conversation, and then provides space for you to compose your letter. It could help with organizing your thoughts if you need it.
- Have you tried attending events or reading about things that are important to you, and inviting one or both of your parents along? It may be an opportunity for all of you to learn more about each other and/or broaden your interests.
- Regardless which options you choose, remember to be proud of who you are. Just keep being you and the right people will find you!
