Okay, so, all my life my dad hasn’t truly acted like a true dad to me. I mean yes, biological he is my father, but I’ve never seen him as that. He wouldn’t spend time with me like my mom and nana, he would spend time with me or gain my affection through items. But, I don’t think that’s a proper way of gaining someone’s affection. Like, a part of me does love him, but apart of me is just torn away from him. My father has been known for, ever since my brother was born who is currently twenty six, for being a big asshole and mentally/verbally hurting my mother. He is a control freak, he would control my moms personal life, to the point where she didn’t have much contact to her friends anymore. But anyways, my dads a bit of a freak. I just, I’m rambling and I know, I’m just tired of it. Recently we got a cat, a foster one from a neglectful family, and he’s been throwing the biggest fits ever. He has stated he does not want to get attached to the cat, saying we shouldn’t, yelling at the cat, and taking it out on me and my mom. Her especially. I’m so sick and tired of the fighting and walking on eggshells, but he says that our fault? That we chose to walk on eggshells with him? And to just let him yell at a abused cat? I know, it makes no sense. But screw him, I’m so sick and tired of his shit. Right now, it’s pretty peaceful and everything’s okay, but every month it seems he has to make these huge deals out of stuff, and then make us miserable. He’s made me change my entire lifestyle, to the point where I can’t see my friends as often because I’m so busy dealing with his shit. I’m so tired of this anxiety, and he wonders where it all comes from. But I’ll be the bad guy if I say it’s his fault, because “he can never be wrong”. He’s a narcissist. To anyone reading this, thanks, I just needed to rant about this. It’s stressful and too much, so I can only hope for the best with my future and getting away from him.
WAYS TO HELP YOURSELF
- First we would like to thank you for having the courage to reach out for help. Many people don’t feel comfortable enough to ask for help or just vent their frustrations and you had the bravery to do so!
- You said that you have a great relationship with your mom and nana, have you attempted to talk to them about how your feeling? Talking to them could be helpful with talking to your father, they could help him understand the way your feeling and they could be a good support for you.
- Besides talking to your family, do you have other people in your life that you could ask for help? Examples of people that you could talk to include a teacher, guidance counselor, a trusted coach, or a friend.
THINGS TO DO LATER
- Here on TeenCentral we have a great family resources tab that helps give you insight about family dynamics. Click here to learn more!
- If you find yourself in a situation and you don’t know what to do or have a hard decision to make you can utilize our Pros and Cons sheet. You can click here and print it out to use whenever you need!