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The Boy Next Door

By November 21, 2021November 22nd, 2021No Comments

I don’t know. I just, I need to get this out somehow. Once when I was little (some time around second grade, when we moved) I went to my friend who lived just next doors house and he eventually took me too a private room with just me and him in it and started grabbing at me under my clothes, touching me VERY inappropriately and I had never been told what to do in a situation like that or that it’s wrong but still felt VERY uncomfortable and scared and so I tried to get away (in a very stupid way) I repeatedly said things like “oh, I think I hear my Mom calling me” which not surprisingly didn’t work. Eventually he stopped and then we went to their living room where everyone was and I sat with him on the ground scared and hoped my Dad would come in and take me out of the house (My Dad had been coming in and out of the house) and even when my Dad came in he wasn’t in any rush to take me out of the house since he didn’t know what happened. When I eventually got out I at some point told my Mom about it (not detailed, but told her what he did, not what I did, I’ve never given anyone the full story out of fear) and she said she’d tell his Mom which I’m not even sure if she ever actually did or not. After it he kept trying to get me to come back to his house, my Mom told me that I told her that I cursed at him, called him names and told him how much I hate him, without telling him why, he kept trying but eventually stopped. I can’t remember exactly what happened but I can remember that for a LONG TIME after it happened I had frequent very vivid very terrifying memories of it where I could legitimately feel him touching me the same way he did that day despite it not actually still happening, and hoping that it would go away. He still lives right next door. He goes to the same exact school as me. He takes the same exact bus. Whenever I even see his face I feel terrified and avoid being around him. I don’t know who knows what he did, I don’t know if he ever received any punishment for it. I don’t know if it’d be considered rape sexual harassment or what because I can’t even remember the incident in detail anymore. Is it something I should tell the police about now, would he get in trouble, he’s the same age as me. (Female 15)

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CONSIDER THIS WHEN YOU ARE READY:

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