Ok so I have trust issues because of backstabbing friends. Now I just feel like all my friends hate me and there is this kid at school who steals my stuff and it gets annoying. Now they are criticizing all my work and everybody thinks I like this one high schooler but I don’t think I do. I know I like this other high school boy and I think I may like this new kid in my grade. The staff is kind of thrusting us into high school and I’m in the 8 grade btw. Anyway back to my friend trouble. I really just want to push all my friends away so I don’t get hurt again. What do I do?
• Figuring out who has our best interests at heart is a very difficult part of our lives. We’re glad you felt that Teen Central was a resource that you could turn to at this time.
• When trying to make important decisions about relationships with people in your life, it’s always good to take a step back and evaluate the relationship. In the Tools section of our website we have a tool to help entitled “Making Hard Decisions” Check it out by clicking here. It’s a pros/cons list for situations in which you need to make some difficult decisions for yourself. It’s important to weigh your pros and cons before making a big decision. This tool may help you find the answers you’re looking for. and– when you make that big decision, what the next step?
• Have you tried talking to a family member or another trusted adult who knows you and has seen your relationship with your friends? It’s often good to find someone you trust to give you an outside perspective on what they see happening. Even if they don’t have an opinion, they’re still good for listening and giving well-meaning advice.
• Have you considered journaling about your feelings? Sometimes it helps to put your thoughts down on paper and then come back to it. In our What’s New tab we have a blog about journaling as an outlet for stress, as well as a newer one on using art for that same purpose. These may help while you’re figuring out what you want to do.
• Have you considered talking to your friends about how you’re feeling? Having these kinds of conversations is often difficult, but lead to the most results. You may want to plan your conversation with someone you trust to help you prepare.