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I don’t know what is happening!

By December 1, 2020No Comments

So there is this uncle who has been there for our family since I was small.  My grandma (dad’s mom) threw us out of the home because we dint have much money. At that time this uncle helped us financially.

As a young girl I admired him.  He used to be my guardian angel, but as I grew up I realized he was just too dominating towards us.  Maybe it was maturity that I realized it or maybe I’m just wrong.

He was my mom’s super senior.  He doesn’t like the idea of us having any other friends other than his family.  His opinion should be involved in everything we do; if we buy any single thing.  He verbally abused my mom and my dad to their face and yet they forgive him so easily just because there was a time when he helped us. Okay, I do respect that but does that give him a license to talk about anything he wants without a filter?  I really have no clue how my parents are just ready to forgive him so soon.  I am just not able to understand the people around me!  Please help me I literally feel so alone at times.  I am a single child and I have no one to talk to about it!

HELP YOURSELF

  • It can be very challenging trying to understand decisions that loved ones make and these decisions don’t always make sense to us.  Thank you for reaching out to TeenCentral and sharing your story with us.
  • TeenCentral has some great resources to help out teens dealing with complex issues. Click here to check out a Support Plan in our “Tools” section. This could help you find ways to manage some of your overwhleming emotions and identify safe people to go to for advice.
  • Speaking of talking to other, do you have any peers or trusted adults you could talk with about what you are feeling? We understand that you are an only child and sometimes that can make you feel alone, but finding a support system is really important. Perhaps a trusted teacher or school counselor, even a trusted friend? Think about it, being able to vent some of these emotions will help keep your mind at ease.

CONSIDER THIS

  • It can be very difficult to interact with people who on one hand help us and our families out and on the other do things we may not like or agree with. Remember that decisions we have to make can be complex and we have to weigh many factors when making decisions on how we interact with others.  These decisions can become even harder when they involve family members.
  • Have you tried talking to your parents about how you are feeling regarding your uncle?  We know that this may be a difficult thing for you to do and if you do not feel ready to do this then perhaps talking with another trusted adult or peer may be helpful?  Maybe that trusted adult or peer could help you talk to your parents about your feelings when you are ready to take that step.
  • If you aren’t ready for that conversation, try writing your thoughts down on paper. Organizing our thoughts and feelings on paper makes it that much easier to have a conversation with someone (when you are ready).