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Lonely and depressed

By December 10, 2020No Comments

I’m so lonely and depressed that I joined a dating app and I don’t even want to be dating or have sex or dirty talk at the present time, but I want someone to talk to beside my 3 animals. My family relative I live with works and doesn’t come home till about 9pm and yes reading some of the recent story post about self harm, suicide, and crisis number. I have anger outburst all suddenly and someone triggered it not knowing. I get the outburst from multiple triggers from stress, anxiety, anger that ties with my ADHD.  I have tried to control it myself but there times ENOUGH AND I spill out every direction and It’s embarrassing to ask for help. Kidspeace has helped me for years and I mean years before and many things have helped me when I was in your Ellsworth location for a while before I went somewere else. I Masbate to self think would solve problem no it does not. A hug from someone and no a tight hug to simulate the pressure points of my body and relax me but coronanvirus 19. NO NO NO NO NO NO NO NO NO NO NO NO

HELP YOURSELF:

  • Thank you for reaching out to the TeenCentral community and sharing your feelings.  If you read through many of the recent stories, you will see that you are not alone in experiencing difficulties adjusting to our current conditions.  Don’t ever be embarrassed to ask for help. Be proud that you have the courage to seek help.
  • You mentioned that you like a tight hug to help stimulate pressure points.  Try looking at the virtual hug in the Tools section of the Teen Central blog.  Also, you can take a look at the “missing physical affection” blog in the Tools section.
  •  If you ever need someone to talk to, and things just feel too overwhelming and sad, you can  CALL 1-800-273-8255 anytime or text HELLO to 741741. If you don’t have a phone you can reach people by computer using either of these links: https://suicidepreventionlifeline.org/ or http://www.crisistextline.org/.

CONSIDER THIS:

  •  Perhaps you would benefit from using some sensory items when your feeling stressed and anxious.  Maybe squeeze playdoh or a stress ball, smell scented markers or oils, use fidget items.  Try activities such as drawing, painting, sculpting, creative writing, coloring in a coloring book or listening to music. Check out “Using Art As a Coping Skill” in the What’s New section.
  • Depression is very difficult. You can read about Depression in the LEARN section of Teen Central. One of the things we suggest is surrounding yourself with things you like and that make you feel happy. Consider decorating your bedroom with things that make you feel good.  Maybe pictures of family, your pets, be creative and make it fun!
  • Finding people to talk to, especially since we are all home much more than we’re used to, is really tough right now. We understand you feel lonely and want to connect with people. Dating websites can be a good way to meet people, but not for what you are looking for – sounds like you just want a friend. We suggest stopping the dating website and focusing on other ways to connect with others. Consider reaching out to your teachers or guidance counselor and ask about school clubs you can join. Some people really like helping others to feel connected and there’s lots of ways to volunteer right now. If this sounds interesting, talk with your family about volunteering at a local animal shelter, or reaching out to local community groups to see if there’s something you would enjoy doing. We also suggest that you continue talking to your pets!  Animals are great listeners and like affection and attention.
  • Try writing things that you’re grateful for in a daily journal.  Writing is a great way to express your feelings when there’s no one home to talk to.  Take a look at Journaling as a Coping Skill under the “What’s New” tab.