Ok so this sounds an awful lot like I am questioning but I don’t believe I am. See I would like to know how asexual really works. Cause like, I have only ever been attracted to one boy, despite many cute boys in my life, and I don’t want to have sex. Like that may seem normal considering I am only 14 or maybe it’s not. But I don’t ever see myself having sex. I am kinda scared to have it. It may just be because I haven’t had the talk yet but am I asexual?
- Thank you so much for reaching out to TeenCentral! You have taken the first and probably the hardest step! It is often very difficult to talk about such topics and it’s normal to feel confused and have a lot of questions.
- Check out the “Learn” tab on the TeenCentral website. Here you can find many tools and sources to help guide you on your journey for answers. In the “Learn” tab, there is a category for Sexuality. Here you can find some information that can help guide you. There are sections on straight and asexual. You can also call The Youth Talkline at 1-800-246-PRIDE (7743) or visit
http://www.glbthotline.org/youth-talkline.html. You can talk with someone trained to help you start to find the answers that you’re looking for.
- Do you feel you have any trusted adults or peers that you can speak to about this? These can be older siblings, parents, family members, teachers, guidance counselors, or even coaches. Getting all of your feelings and questions out to someone else can help to get the support and guidance that you may need. Plus it feels good to be able to express yourself to someone who will listen.
CONSIDER THESE OPTIONS
- These are very confusing times in your developing life. There’s a lot of information flying at you from the media about sex. When you’re just trying to understand what’s happening to you, all of this information and opinions can make it harder to know what to do and how to act. Breathe, and know that you don’t have to figure it all out right away. This is part of growing up, and it may take a while for you to know who you are, who you’re attracted to, and how sex and being intimate with others fits into your life. There’s no rush.
- We asked about talking with trusted adults about your questions, sex and sexuality. But consider that lots of people are uncomfortable talking about this because it’s a very personal topic. It’s a good idea to talk with someone you trust, just be prepared that they may feel a bit uncomfortable. That’s not on you. Make sure you give yourself and the other person time to talk so you both don’t feel rushed, and remember that even though it can be awkward, it’s worth the effort.
- Sexuality is just one part of who we are. Remember to focus on the things that you enjoy – whatever that is! Check out our WELLNESS section for some information on taking care of yourself and commit to doing something everyday – even just for 10 minutes.