Ever since I was little I knew I was different. My first sexual experience was with my best friend. We were very young when we started experimenting. Thing is we are both girls. We went to different middle school and high school. We just recently linked up. I always wondered if she remembers how we use to mess around when we were younger, she seems to have forgotten about that. But I remember everything so clearly. We’re both mature now. We had a sleepover recently and I was scared that I’d make a move because I’m still in awe of her. I wanted to have sex with her. She’s beautiful and I can’t stop thinking about what we use to do. Seeing her again has made me want to come out because I’m tired of hiding. I finally told my friends that I am bisexual during Pride month, everyone knows now including my younger sister but the only people that don’t know are my parents. I don’t think my parents will accept the fact that I’m gay. Every single person I have told that I’m bisexual supports me. So I’m lucky there. I really want to tell my parents but I’m nervous. How should I break it to them?
- This is a very tough time in your life for sure! It is completely normal and understandable that you are feeling nervous about talking to your parents about this. You probably feel very vulnerable as well. Here at TeenCentral we have many resources pertaining to LGBTQ+ community and are here to listen to you.
- First things first, take a big deep breath and hold it in for five seconds. Now blow it out as if you are blowing out birthday cake candles. You are NOT alone. Talking to your parents about this and showing them your true self is very scary, but you are strong, and you are brave, and you’ve got this.
- It is best to do this sooner than later but also to not rush it. You must talk to them when you are ready. Not when you think they are. The longer you wait though, the tougher it may be and the more you must hide it from them.
- Try talking to other family members or a counselor about it first. Both are great resources to help prep you for how you want to start the conversation. Not only can they help in that area, but they may also be able to help you find the LGBTQ+ teen community in your area.
- Before talking with your parents take time to check out our Tools page. Here there are tons of resources pertaining to LGBTQ+ such as LGBTQ+ Coloring Sheet, Straight Ally, and LGBTQ+ Flags.
- When you are done in the Tools page, check out the Sexuality Section under our Learn Tab. Both sections could help to start guide you down your path and start this conversation with your parents.
- In the meantime, try writing it all out in a journal to help sort your thoughts and get them all out of paper. In the Tools section you can also find activities and information pertaining to Making Hard Decisions and Support Planning.
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