I’m 16 and Pregnant

I’m 16 and Pregnant

I can’t believe this is for real. But after taking two different home pregnancy tests and getting the same result, I decided to ditch school today and go to a doctor to confirm it. And the conclusion is that I’m most definitely pregnant.

I spent the day trying not to freak out and trying to decide on what to do. I’ve told my boyfriend what the doctor said and he said he’ll support whatever decision I make. After a lot of thought, I think I’ve made up my mind. I’m not going to have an abortion. I’m going to carry this baby to term and try to find a family to adopt him/her.

Now I just have to tell my parents. I’ve always been the responsible one in our family, so I’m sure they’re going to be surprised to say the least. I just hope they don’t totally freak out. I plan to tell them tonight at dinner. I’m just sitting here thinking about how I’ll say it and about how I’ll be as big as a house soon.

I can’t believe I did this to myself. Anyway, thanks for listening. Please wish me luck for tonight.

CONSIDER THIS:

  • Being pregnant at a young age can make you feel scared and alone. You are strong for taking responsibility for your actions and trying to deal with the consequences.
  • If you need someone to talk to, you can head to the Teen Central website and click the HELP tab to call a hotline or textline. You may also speak to a trusted therapist, school counselor or religious leader.
  • Having a baby is a big deal. You can benefit from seriously considering your options more.
  • When your baby gets older, it’s highly likely he/she will want to know you and the father. Besides this, you and the father will probably wonder about how your baby is doing, what kind of job he/she will have when older, etc.
  • Knowledge is power. You can read more about adoption grief by reading this article: Emotional & Psychological Effects of Adoption on Birth Mother from Adoptionnetwork.com
  • If you decide to keep your baby and you need help, you can get the help you need by asking a counselor or someone who knows how to take care of babies. This could be your mother, a relative or someone else you can trust. You may even be able to apply for financial help for living expenses or for college.
  • Even if you have no money now, you can get a part-time job online or in your area to earn money to take care of a baby. This could be a chance to enjoy being responsible by taking care of your baby.
  • Spirituality can help you understand what the right thing is to do and live a more meaningful life. Prayer, meditation or yoga can help you focus better, stay healthy and have peace of mind.
  • You can still live your life, but having a baby will teach you to be even more responsible and a better person.
  • You could talk to your parents about what the right thing is to do. They might have good advice.
  • You might want to take your time on making a decision on whether or not to keep your baby so you don’t have any regrets.
  • You can be positive by repeating positive affirmations to yourself.
  • You can write down your thoughts on the matter to understand your own feelings on making this important life decision.
  • Giving your baby up for adoption could affect you and your child for the rest of your lives. If you keep your baby, you won’t have to endure the pain of giving up a family member, and will likely adapt fairly quickly to him/her.

HELP YOURSELF:

  • In what ways is it easier than ever before to have children these days compared to the past?
  • How can having a baby improve your life?
  • In what ways might it be selfish to give your baby away?
  • In what ways could giving up your baby affect the father?
  • How might your feelings change later on after your baby is born?