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Is This Abuse?

By October 31, 2022No Comments

I wouldn’t consider my parents abusive. My parents, I mean my mom and stepdad. I just don’t know what to do. Las-t night she had come into my room telling me I needed to get out. All I was doing was cleaning my room, so I said I’ll go downstairs- afterward. One thing came to another, and my stepdad shoved me out of my room and my mom took me and shoved me against the wall and slapped me across the face so hard my ear was ringing. My stepdad then locked my door shut with screws in the wall so I couldn’t get back into my room. She has hit me a few times in the past, but it’s not her fault, it’s mine. I do bad things to them. I steal money and cigarettes from them. I sneak phones behind their back because they won’t give me mine back. I feel bad for what I do. Really bad. But they sometimes say things to me when I confess things to them. This week I told them I was stressed out and suicidal and they told me I needed to cut the act out and that I have nothing to be stressed out about. I had gotten into an argument with her about I don’t remember what.  My brother said he didn’t want to be here with me here and my mom agreed with him, so I then spent 3 hours outside in the cold looking for a place to stay other than my house because I felt like they didn’t want me to stay. I don’t know what else to do. I talk to my counselor at school about it, but I don’t know if it’s considered abuse or not.

Help Yourself

  • It must be hard to be unsure whether or not to trust your family with your safety.  Hopefully we can help by giving you some ideas so that you can get the help you need in this situation. Thank you for reaching out to TeenCentral for help!
  • In terms of abuse, the main question here is do you feel safe at home?  If the answer is no, then you need to let someone know what’s happening.  It’s good that you talk to your counselor at school.  Are you telling him/her/them what’s happening?  Have you talked to any other trusted adults about your situation?  You may want to consider contacting the authorities in your area if you are being physically harmed by members of your family.  If you’re not sure how to do that you may want to read this blog on Getting help for Abuse On  Your Own. Regardless of how you or they feel you’re behaving, no one has the right to make another person feel unsafe.  Please remember that.
  • You also made a statement that you told your family you’re feeling suicidal.  If you’re feeling that way and you’re letting people know you need help- that’s fantastic.  It means you realize how important you really are.  If your family doesn’t support your telling them this, don’t be afraid to reach out to others instead.  You can always call the authorities and let them know or go to the nearest emergency room if it’s an emergency.  You can also use the new Suicide Prevention Hotline by dialing 9-8-8.

Consider This

  • You may want to consider getting a professional to help you with this situation.  A therapist or another counselor would be an unbiased person who can help you understand what’s happening in your situation and help you explore options for yourself.
  • Have you tried sitting down and having a conversation with your family?  For conversations such as this, it’s helpful to plan out what you want to say ahead of time, and then practice your discussion with someone so you can be prepared to present yourself calmly and rationally.  This is sometimes difficult in an emotional situation.
  • You may want to try and find new, safe coping skills to use when you’re stressed that will help you manage your stress, but won’t cause issues with your family.  Do you have any hobbies?  Art?  Music?  Sports?  Nature?  Anything that has a calming influence that you can do when you’re feeling anxious of stressed.  Maybe try a few things until you find what really works for you.Hi my name is Jody Wick home and someone called me from your office having to do with a bill related to my my last injection and I’m not sure who it was that called me but I’m just returning the call