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Is this normal?

By June 25, 2022June 28th, 2022No Comments

I’m a 16-year-old girl and I’m really attracted to this boy I know who just turned 13. Is it normal to be attracted to someone so much younger? I admit I’m scared that this makes me some kind of pervert or something.


  • Thank you for sharing your story with TeenCentral. It sounds like you are having a hard time right now, sharing your story took strength and we hope this helps link you with appropriate resources as you navigate your current situation.
  • While three years might not seem like a big age difference, the difference between a 13-year-old and a 16-year-old can be quite vast. In some states engaging in a relationship of this type could have serious social, moral, or even legal consequences. During the formative years of our growth, a few years can be like night and day when considering development, cognition, language, and socialization.
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  • Consider surrounding yourself with peers your own age. While you are with your peers, try focusing on something other than dating. Simply enjoy your time together engaging in age-appropriate behaviors such as playing basketball, going for a jog, getting a job, helping others, or playing board games or card.
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