So me and my best friend got into a huge fight and to sum it up I told him not to do drugs and then he says I’ll do what I want. So I go I care about u and he says, well don’t. This happened Friday night. All my friends tell me to move on and one texted him today and he said he was exhausted of when and that I’m a smotherer when I have repeatedly apologized for stuff I didn’t even say. So now everyone is telling me to move on. It’s not like he was toxic up to this point. But somehow he got so much control over my emotions that I can’t stop crying and it’s so annoying. I don’t know what to do right now anymore. Please help.
- It can be very overwhelming to care so much about another person. I am glad you reached out to TeenCentral for support. Sometimes it just feels good to get those emotions out and vent.
- If your friend is in need of immediate support, he can contact the Substance Abuse Mental Health Awareness National Helpline at 1-800-662-4357. This is a 24 hour support line that can refer them to drug and alcohol services in your area. If you feel comfortable suggesting this to him, you have the information.
- Substance abuse is not something you should take on alone. Is there a trusted adult or older peer that you can ask for help? It may be easier to communicate with your friend in a productive way if you have someone else there to support you and him. Reminding your friend there are people who care about him may be helpful in his journey.
- Sometimes when you feel overwhelmed with a situation, the best thing you can do is take a breath and clear your head. Is there anything that helps you disconnect? Try taking a walk around the block. Even if it’s only 10 or 15 minutes, allowing you mind to clear can help you feel less anxious.
- Worrying about a friend or loved one can be very stressful. Try writing down some of the things that you would want to say to your friend. Why you care about him so much. Think of this as a letter to him. When you have the time to get all your thoughts on paper, it might not be so overwhelming for you.
- Don’t forget- you can always be a support system for you friend. Tell him you care about him and that you will always be there when or if he needs you. But, ultimately you cannot control what other people do or feel. Coming to terms with this may be able to bring you some peace of mind. Continue to be the great friend like you already have been.