Yesterday I was at my dad’s house and when I got back to my mom’s house my mom told me that my neighbors that live in front were trying to put a heart origami on the door for me until she scared them away lol. And today when we got back from dropping off my grandma at work, the heart was on the mat on the front door like aww. so we went to costco n when we came back, one of them was outside n my mom was like heyy you, neighbor, my daughter wants to know which one of you guys left the heart for her n he was hecka shyyy. He was like um idk if I should tell you. And my mom was like she wanted to thank who ever gave it to her and the older one was like “it was me, it was a gift for u” and I yelled thank youuuuu. It was so cute bc hes like 16 or 17 giving me an origami heart. I then asked him his name n he told me it n he asked for my name n he was “alright I’ll talk to later” and went inside bc he was shy like awwww. But the problem is that he reminds me a lot of my ex that I dated for 3 years and I want to get to know this dude but I hate the fact that he is so like my ex. What should I do?
- When someone gives you positive attention, it can be exciting and nerve racking all at the same time. It is normal to feel uncertain about the attention your neighbor is giving you. Thanks for trusting the Teen Central community with your story. We are always here to help.
- Sometimes our past experiences scare us away from new opportunities. If those experiences in the past weren’t so great, we get nervous that the future may turn out the same. It’s a normal feeling to be cautious with your heart. But if we are too cautious, we may miss out on some really happy experiences.
- Is there anyone in your life that you can chat about your feelings with? An older sibling, a trusted friend or even your mom and dad? Sometimes it feels better to get some feedback from someone who knows what you have been through in the past. Or to just have someone there to listen.
- Sometimes when you feel nervous (or even excited) about a situation, the best thing you can do is take a breath and clear your head. Is there anything that helps you disconnect? Try taking a walk around the block. Even if it’s only 10 or 15 minutes, allowing you mind to clear can help you feel less anxious. Maybe you could even try to learn some origami. 🙂
- Try weighing your options. What’s the worst that could happen if you take some time to get to know this new friend? Also think about, how would you handle getting to know someone new without comparing them to your past experiences? What are some of the things that could make this opportunity amazing?
- Have you ever tried journaling? Write down some of the answers to those questions above. Seeing your thoughts and feelings in black and white might help you organize your concerns. And remember, there is no harm in making a new friend, as long as the relationship is healthy and positive.