My mom hits me a lot and she says she only does that because she “loves” me and whenever I get hit or made fun of by her my brothers will just laugh and saying that I deserve it and that it my fault for making everyone life miserable:/
THINGS TO DO FIRST:
- It certainly sounds like you have a lot going on, which may be leading to an array of emotions. The most important thing is your safety! Thank you for showing courage and reaching out to Teen Central for help.
- It is important that you remain safe both physically and emotionally. Love is not shown with hurtful comments or violence. If you ever feel you are in danger, PLEASE CALL 911. We know that many people are uncomfortable to with calling the police in certain situations, so you could call a friend and ask them to give you a ride to the Emergency Room. There are people there who are trained to help you. On the Teen Central website under the “HELP” tab, there are numbers you can call to get help, including 1-800-4-A-CHILD (1-800-422-4453), to help kids being abused, or you can text HELLO to 741741 if making a call isn’t possible. These resources are available 24/7. Your safety is the most important thing!
- Additionally, there is a WHAT’S NEW BLOG that has a ton of information for someone in your situation. PLEASE READ IT and use the information to help yourself. There are people standing ready to help you. All you have to do is reach out to them. CLICK HERE for the blog.
- Who can you trust that you can talk to? This could be a friend, neighbor, teacher, or guidance counselor. It is important to get help if you are in an unsafe situation. It is also important for you to express your feelings. You may be experiencing fear, frustration, sadness, anger, anxiety, loneliness, and/or many other emotions. Sometimes letting strong emotions build up can make things more difficult, but talking to someone can help you cope.
THINGS TO DO LATER:
- Have you ever journaled about your feelings? How do the negative comments from your family make you feel? What would you like your family relationships to look like? Try writing these feelings down and it could open to door for a face to face discussion with your family. Does your family know how hurtful their comments are? How could having a discussion with your family help improve your relationship?
- What activities do you enjoy? Find something that allows you to escape and focus on you. This could be taking a walk, doing yoga, spending time with friends, or aerobic exercise. Often physical exercise helps elevate you mood. Doing things with friends/remaining socially active can provide you with support through rough times. Keep trying until you find that activity that helps you feel better.