A few weekends past to present. Hi so I have severe anxiety, depression, adhd, and ocd but my parents won’t listen to me so I’m not getting medication or any kind of help. Things have been getting worse now that I have moved. I don’t have any friends here. I don’t fit in. Then, my friend at my old school shot himself and I knew things like that happened but not to people I knew. Of course I grieved but I was more scared than grieving. What if it happens again to someone I know? There is also the most perfect guy in existence who goes to school with me now and I really like him and he acts like he likes me but I’m just so confused. Also, my best friend at my old school has an ex girlfriend who is kinda crazy and she keeps bringing it too new levels. She recently told my bestie that it was his fault somebody killed theirself, which of course isn’t true. On top of all that, being 14, my body is developing and my dad is treating me different and it’s making me uncomfortable. He keeps commenting on my body and giving me love and I don’t like it. I have to go on a trip alone with him in 3 weeks what do I do??
IN THIS MOMENT:
- Thank you for writing in to our TeenCentral community. It sounds like you have a lot on your plate and we are glad you took the time to share your story. From what you said, it sounds as if you are coping with your own mental health treatment, a big move and new friends, the loss of a friend to suicide, a new crush, and your changing body.
- First and foremost, we are sorry for your loss. There is no right or wrong way to feel when you are going through a significant loss. If you click on our “Learn” tab, there is an entire section on “Grief and Loss” that may be helpful and offer you some comfort during these really tough times. In addition we like to make sure people are aware of the National Suicide Prevention Lifeline at 1-800-273-TALK (8255) Or text the Crisis Text Line at 741-741.
- It sounds as if you are feeling unheard when you turn to your parents and you are having a hard time meeting new friends at this new place. Is there anyone safe in your life you can reach out to when you need to talk. Consider, if you are attending school in person you might be able to reach out to a guidance counselor. If you are a member of a religious group, sport team, or club is there an adult you can talk to? Are you in touch with any extended family members such as grandparents or family friends? We all need support to help us through both the good and the tough times.
WHEN YOU HAVE TIME:
- Consider ways to help yourself by finding new ways to deal with stress and anxiety. We have great resources on our LEARN and our TOOLS tabs that highlight ways to cope. For example, you can try journaling, art, or listening to music.
- Think about joining some new activities to build your natural supports and get involved and active. Join a club, play a sport, or just get in to nature. Try taking some deep breaths and practice noticing what you can sense with your senses. Being able to focus on what you can see, smell, taste, hear and feel in the moment can help quiet your mind when it’s filled with so many stressful thoughts and remind you to focus on what you do have in the present.