So at this point I’m really confused about how I feel. I just got slapped by my mum because she was mad about the chaos going on in my home. It was basically my father calling me worthless and asked my younger brother to read my subjects and explain it to me, because I was too dumb to understand any. I just gave an exam in which I did really bad, so my family has come to terms with me being completely worthless and useless.
Well do I think I’m worthless? At a point I was confident enough to not trust in them, but over time I feel like maybe they are right and I’ve stopped trying. If I ever tell them that they made me feel worthless and dumb, they always say that no matter who tells you what, you should always prove them wrong and they continue insulting and making fun of my talents and abilities.
My mum hates me, even though she does stuff for me like, gets me food, thinks about my future and stuff. She is always saying how I’m a constant disappointment and that I’m a bad omen and that every bad thing that ever happens in the house is because of me. She says how she wishes I was dead, how she failed to bring me up properly (because I had a boyfriend), how I’m such a pain in her ass, and how the family suffers because of me. She clearly hates me, but she’s still trying to be a good mum. I don’t know how to feel about the entire thing. I want to get out of my house and start living a life, but that’s not possible.
- Living in a home environment where others are not very supportive can be extremely challenging. We are so glad that instead of just accepting the negative viewpoints of others, you decided to make the brave decision to share your story with the rest of the TeenCentral.com community. We hope you remember that you never need to prove your self-worth to anybody other than yourself!
- Sometimes when our everyday lives include regular insults and maybe even physical violence, we can start to accept it and believe that this is normal. However, you should make sure that your safety, both physical and emotional, is your number one priority! If you are ever in a life-threatening situation, please do not hesitate to contact your local authorities. Even if you are just feeling stressed or overwhelmed, there are so many people who can offer you support. You can see from the article entitled “Helplines, Suicide Hotlines, and Crisis-Lines from Around the World” that no matter where you live, there are tons of resources that you can access to get in touch with somebody who cares. Here at TeenCentral.com, one of our favorite supports is the Crisis Textline (crisistextline.org), especially since you can contact them internationally via Facebook Messenger.
- Sometimes when we are facing tough situations, sharing our experiences with somebody else can really help. Although your immediate family may not be the most supportive, do you know any other trusted adults who would be available to listen to you? By simply talking with somebody who cares, we oftentimes will feel a little less stressed and a lot less alone!
- There is a popular saying that “everybody is a genius, but if you judge a fish by its ability to climb a tree, it will live its whole life believing that it is stupid.” We all have strengths and weaknesses, but sometimes we, along with others, seem really eager to point out our mistakes. Although your family sometimes makes fun of your talents and abilities, just remember that your value doesn’t decrease based on someone else’s inability to see your worth! Using the Daily Positive Reminder from the Tools Section of TeenCentral.com can help you focus on the positive things in your life, even when others may not be able to recognize them.
- You mentioned that sometimes you think about getting out of the house and starting to live your own life. Oftentimes, when we are dealing with tough situations that seem beyond our control, it can feel tempting to just leave and set out on our own. Unfortunately, this decision does not always go as we envisioned and can even result in additional problems that we had never even imagined. On the What’s New Blog of TeenCentral.com, there is an interesting post entitled “3 Things to Do Instead of Running Away” that contains some great tips about other options that you may want to consider. Even when we are feeling trapped, we have choices about what we can do to get the help and relief that we need!
- When we are dealing with a lot of stress in our lives, we oftentimes forget about taking care of our own well-being. Do you have any hobbies or activities that you enjoy doing that tend to improve your mood? If we are able to make time each day to do things that help us to feel happier and more relaxed, we are oftentimes more prepared to handle whatever situations we may face. Perhaps you could even try doing some simple yoga exercises like the Sun Salutation from the Tools Tab of TeenCentral.com as a way to start each day with a little self-care!